tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-60867406320315305542024-03-05T14:18:07.577+00:00in the eyes of a foreignerAishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-21495369589335267962012-05-21T23:41:00.001+01:002012-05-21T23:42:43.929+01:00finally things are moving forwardSalam Alaikum<br />
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A couple of weeks ago we had another hiccup with the school. They tried to exclude my son from a school trip to a farm :( I was nothing less than furious, to be honest, because the boy LOVES animals! We've been there so many times before and he has always been good as gold! But even when I told his teacher this, she brushed me off, saying she'd think about it..<br />
I then decided to take matters in my own hand and finally went to Parents Partnership. I've heard alot of good things about them and have had them recommended before.. I was a bit apprehensive at first, but MashaAllah within a few minutes, I realised I had made the right decision. I was informed that the school was in the wrong here and in fact, Ayoub is obliged to fulll time education! And if they can't provide that for him, then they need to arrange support for him or use other means so he can access education! So they wrote a letter, on my behalf, to the director of Education, requesting a SEN statement for my son. Something I had no idea I could actually do myself! SubhanAllah over the last 8 months I've been fighting for him, begging the school to help me, yet they kept this from me! it just goes to show how little support they've given me!<br />
After my meeting with Parents Partnership, I felt like i had gotten a confidence boost and started pressing on the school to take Ayoub with them on the trip and Alhamdulillah he was allowed to go in the end! And guess what??? He was an absolute star!! MashaAllah!<br />
In July the whole school will be going to the Zoo, let's see what stunt they'll come up with then!<br />
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With regards to the diagnosis, I feel we're moving closer to the finish line InshaAllah! He has just been assessed by CIT and InshaAllah they should be sending out a report this week<br />
The school has finally sent out the referral to an educational psychologist and behavior support team, which will InshaAllah help him at school aswell<br />
We've also got another Paediatric appointment on 11th of June and because he has been assessed by all the people she had requested, I'm hoping there will be a diagnosis there, InshaAllah!<br />
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Wrt moving, I've decided to stay down here until things settle down a bit InshaAllah. Trying to get everything in place, wrt school, home, family etc etc so when we move, it will be a completely new start for us and InshaAllah everything will be much smoother, as we will have all the support etc in place alreadyAishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-76251187983428096032012-04-13T11:19:00.001+01:002012-04-13T11:19:16.115+01:00Future plansSalam Alaikum <br />
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Well for the past few years I've been thinking of getting a degree of some sort. I've explored many options out there but not really gotten hooked on any, beside interior design (my ultimate passion) and psychology.<br />
I've now decided to go for psychology which not only can help me understand and help my son better, but Also to bring awareness about mental health to the Muslim community, especially in the middle east, where it's still such a taboo, SubhanAllah! <br />
I know it all might sound too ambitious, but InshaAllah I want to move to the middle east at some point and InshaAllah that way get things moving.. I've done a bit of research on Kuwait and appearantly there is hardly any help there for those who need it, and when they do get help they get shunned by society, SubhanAllah!<br />
Anyway that's going to be my goal for now and InshaAllah the interior design can become a reality one day by getting on the property ladder and do houses up, as a hobby Ofcourse :)<br />
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Does anyone reading this have a degree in psychology? Perhaps you can give me some ideas of what to expect from the course?<br />
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BarakAllahu feeki xAishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-5388682121119601962012-04-13T07:35:00.002+01:002012-04-13T07:35:33.091+01:00another update!Salam Alaikum<br />
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Wow I can't believe it has been over 4 months since I updated here! InshaAllah it won't be that long again.<br />
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Alot of things have changed, twisted and turned in these past few months, SubhanAllah. I've been working intensely with Ayoub's behavior since the start of January and we have seen quite a remarkable change MashaAllah, both at home and at school! And the week before half term in February, he had his first few days WITHOUT time-outs! SubhanAllah it was going so well, then he got the flu a week after the half term and we got back to square one! Although he got really bad after the flu, he has recovered from it fairly quickly, compared to what he used to Alhamdulillah<br />
He still has his aggressive and screaming outbursts, but they seem far less intense now Alhamdulillah<br />
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So where am I with the diagnosis? well I saw the psychologist twice in January, where we got more into dept with Ayoub's behavior, she said she'd go to the school to make an assessment and put the school in its place and get the help for Ayoub, he needed. She told me to call the Paediatrician to see how far on the waiting list he was and if he was going to get seen soon.. So I did and to my surprise he was already booked in 2 weeks later (06.02.12) MashaAllah!<br />
She then said she'd get the assessment done before i went there, so i had some material to support my claims and she booked an appointment with the school the following week (31.01.12), but when the day came, i was informed by the school, that she was sick and therefore had postponed the assessment, Khair InshaAllah, but i have to say i was disappointed that her office hadn't informed be prior to meeting up at school..<br />
Funnily enough the school only referred Ayoub to CIT (communication interaction team) the same day the psychologist booked her appointment to make the assessment, just goes to show how little they are doing for me..<br />
I also asked to school for a school report or a supporting letter to support my claim and they promised they would do it, i even asked them on a a daily basis the week before i had the appointment with the Paediatrican, however on the friday before the appointment, the SENCO turned around and said they wouldn't do it and would never promise such a thing, if the Paediatrican wanted any information about my son, they could contact them directly SubhanAllah! i was in shock and almost in tears! this was a crucial document for the appointment, as the Paediatrican could get an insight to how he was at school, his needs etc and hopefully give a diagnosis!<br />
Then the day arrived.. I was praying that she would understand my situation and decided to be 100% honest about everything I've had to go through in this process. She was shocked and disgusted by the treatment of the school and lack of communication between all parties, she also informed me that the school should have provided him a one to one support from the first week and they should have had the educational psychologist and CIT involved straight away.. She then did a short assessment on ayoub and then said that there are alot of things that aren't normal, but then again alot that are. And due to the lack of reports/documents, she wasn't able to give a diagnosis just there and then. She also said she'd get hold of everyone (speech therapist, psychologist, school, CIT) and get them all to report back to her and she would encourage them all to work with me, not against me, to communicate better with me and so on. And then she would send me another appointment in 4 months time (apparently that's how long it takes, SubhanAllah)<br />
I left the CDC (children's development center) with a mixed feeling.. Relieved that someone is finally working on my behalf, but a bit discouraged due to the lengthy wait, Khair InshaAllah..<br />
I had expected to hear from the psychologist shortly after, but that didn't happen.. I then sent her a text on the 02.03.12, asking when she was going to do the assessment, got a reply on the 12.03.12 that she was doing the assessment that afternoon and would call me as soon as she came back to the office.<br />
When she called, she told me that she thought i was right, he might actually be high funtional autistic, in other words Aspergers and possibly ADHD aswell. Oh i can't tell you how relieved i was! SubhanAllah it was like i felt a ton lighter! But ofcourse she couldn't give an official diagnosis, so she told me some pointers to bring up at the next Paediatric appointment, she said she'd sent in her report, told me to get hold of the other reports (school and speech therapy) and said that as soon as CIT has made their assessment, then we're ready for the diagnosis to be made<br />
So now it's all a waiting game, I've got an appointment with the SENCO when kids go back to school and then I'm gonna call CIT and try to push the assessment forward InshaAllah. I need this sorted before Ayoub starts in year 1, as he's clearly not coping now, so I expect it to be much worse next academic year, SubhanAllah and the school refuses to give him a one to one without a statement, yet there are other kids at the school who don't have a statement, but do get all the support they need.. Again just goes to show their unwillingness to cooperate!<br />
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I've also used these months to do a thorough research both on autism and where i can get the resources and help i need, with or without a diagnosis. Hence the reason why I've withdrawn myself from all social networking amongst other things.<br />
I found that Harrow in London has the best service available for my whole family, Ayoub can get the help he needs and my girls can get a great academic education aswell as majority of the schools there are great MashaAllah. There are groups, therapies, events etc available and set up by NAS (national autistic society), CAHMS and parents like myself, so my plan is to move there ASAP.. I was going to move on the 1st of April, but the psychologist told me to wait until the diagnosis was in place, as there might be a set back in the process and instead of getting the diagnosis in a couple of months, i would look at getting it by the end of the year or early next year, so obviously I've decided to wait until the diagnosis is in place and InshaAllah move ASAP afterwards<br />
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So far so good, I will try to post here on a regular basis InshaAllah, my apologies for the disappearing act, but it hasn't been without reasons and Jazak Allahu Khairan for all your support x<br />
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<br />Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-4424939457742606042011-12-04T11:15:00.001+00:002011-12-04T11:39:54.009+00:00long time no seeSalam Alaikum<br />
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Ok it has been a while since I updated here, i guess so much was going on that i withdrew myself for a bit.<br />
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To make a long story short, we had a child psychologist around 2 weeks ago. After our first assessment, she definitely could see that everything isn't as it should be and will be referring us to a clinical doctor at the childrens development hospital, aswell as observe Ayoub at school. It was a really emotional assessment as i had to dig into some deep scars, which I've done all I could to forget about, Khair InshaAllah, as long as it might help my son and at the end of the day what doesn't break you makes you stronger. It was the first time I had spoken about that period of my life with anyone and being brutally honest and I do think it was actually a relief to actually set words on it. I've definitely gotten my fighting spirit back Alhamdulillah.<br />
A few days later, the speech therapist called to talk about her previous report.. As you can read in my previous post she had an action sheet set up, but now she was withdrawing it. She turn around and said that she didn't think there was anything wrong with my son, he might have a very mild version of ADHD, but definitely nothing else.. I was shocked and informed her about the psychologist and that she also said things weren't right. Then she said "oh well, I can speak to her and we can carry on with the assessments, just to put your mind at rest".. OMG I was speechless! how could she say that?? I decided to end the call there and then, as I knew I would say something I might regret..<br />
In the meantime Ayoub has been quite on and off.. the first week after half term was great but then it has just gone down hill, SubhanAllah..<br />
On thursday he had the biggest outburst to date, when I took them to school and usually he calms down as we reach the gate, but not this time... He carried on screaming as he went to the classroom and I was standing in the playground for about 15-20 mins afterwards, listening to him. I wanted to go in there but the teachers told me not to, as he could do this every morning then.. I went home and tried to get some housework done and when I picked him up at lunch time I got the biggest shock of all. I was met by his teacher, saying he had has the worst morning to date. He had spent majority of the morning in time out, as he was throwing everything, he could get his hands on, around the classroom, pushing and slapping the other children and when he was in time out, he attacked the teacher. He kept pulling her blouse and then scratched her hand quite badly, she showed me the hand and it was covered in scars SubhanAllah<br />
I honestly don't know what to do! I'm thinking of calling the psychologist tomorrow, to see if she has some sort of solution and I'm thinking of keeping him at home for the last couple of weeks, before christmas holidays, if he doesn't improve. Also being on my own and nowhere to turn at the moment, I guess that makes it even harder :(<br />
<br />Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-28214025174780400332011-10-31T11:56:00.001+00:002011-10-31T11:56:43.572+00:00letter from speech therapistSalam Alaikum<br />
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I've just had the letter from my son's speech and language therapist. She has booked him in for another 6 appointments, which will be once a week at the school until 6th of December.<br />
She wrote that his speech and understanding is a high average, but social and interaction came in on low (which in knew anyway)..<br />
She has sent a letter to the GP asking for a referral to paediatrician (which i've already have sorted)<br />
Another letter to the school to provide a Teaching Assistant to run a social skills group for him and to send a referral to communication and interaction team and the behaviour support team.<br />
The nursery he was at before the summer holiday has already been in contact with communication and interaction team and they will have a look at him this week InshaAllah, as they're going to his school anyway.<br />
So Alhamdulillah things are finally going somewhere!Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-57714030903341802902011-10-31T11:07:00.002+00:002011-10-31T11:07:49.407+00:001st day at schoolSalam Alaikum<br />
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Today is the first day back at school and we also had the biggest tantrum ever! I knew it and was prepared for it.. Ayoub screamed from he got his uniform on until we reached the school.. Outside the school gate he told me he was scared to go to school and when I asked him why he said it was too loud, too noisy :( It makes me wonder how exactly these sensory issues are affecting him? like when he hears an unbearable noise, then what is it that is so unbearable? what does it do to him? Ofcourse he's too young to explain or even put words on it, but I really want to understand what he goes through, InshaAllah one day!<br />
He has a full day today and honestly i'm dreading it! I know how he'll be like when he comes back.. he'll kick off from I pick him up until bedtime and nothing will be good enough for him..<br />
I guess I need to get as much as possible done today, incl have dinner ready for him, so at least we won't have that side of things in the way..Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-43870800122608996812011-10-30T21:04:00.000+00:002011-10-30T21:04:15.758+00:00the end of half termSalam Alaikum<br />
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I've been missing in action for for some time now.. Kids were off for half term and will be going back tomorrow InshaAllah, so that has kept me busy during the day and I've recently taking up knitting! lol! I haven't knitted since i was a child and I've never made any major projects, the biggest i made back then was suppose to be a pair of socks, but i only finished the one sock hahaha!<br />
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So now you know, I'm far from a pro, but these are my starting projects, just to get into it before starting something bigger...<br />
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I've made 3 of these bags and made the handles myself<br />
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<br />Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-58532263876246786272011-10-19T22:05:00.001+01:002011-10-20T09:51:41.769+01:00looks like we're getting somewhere!<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i>Salam Alaikum</i></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i>As previously mentioned I've had some serious issues with Ayoub's current school. Had a meeting with his headteacher on friday and the outcome was not great. Seriously he's the most arrogant and ignorant man I've ever met in my life. Was so rude, cut me off all the time, I don't think I was able to even complete one sentance, he accused me of lying and put words in my mouth, SubhanAllah, I was boiling on the inside and if I had been there any longer I would probably have punched him straight in the face! The PSA, who was with me was also gobsmacked and said she had never met a headteacher like him herself (she has met many of them) and said straight out that the school wasn't for my son.</i></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i>I've used the weekemd to reflect on what to do next and how to help my son the best way I can.. I decided it would probably be best for me to home school, as he's obviously not happy at school and honestly I just can't handle his outbursts anymore.. So monday I used to ask around about home schooling and yesterday I went to the nursery to see if they we're willing to take him in, or at least let him come to socialise whilst i home school, which they had no problems with at all..</i></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i>Today I went back to the nursery and had a lengthy chat with the head of the nursery. I was able to go into thorough details with regards to his behaviour and she was shocked to find out how much he has changed since he started school. She agreed with me that he's definitely not the same boy that left the nursery back in July. And she even went so far to say that she had never have thought she'd say it, but she actually thought that a special school might be the best for him, SubhanAllah!</i></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i>In the afternoon I was able to bring ayoub over there to play, whilst I got hold of the child psychologist who works with that school. She also agreed with me that there was definitely something there.. When I told her I wanted to home school my son, she actually advised me against it, but came up with another solution. She told me to ask his current school to keep his place open, whilst he goes back to nursery, then gradually build up a preparation for school. Then whilst he's in the nursery, i should apply for a transition over to the school where the nursery is. She also told me that if I was able to do that, then the nursery would be able to make a referral to the communication and interaction team, aswell as <span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; line-height: 12px;">cahms (Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services).</span></i></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; line-height: 12px;">This is a great result for us, MashaAllah and just goes to show it helps to be pushy at times! our referral to the paediatrician hasn't come through yet, so I'll be calling the GP tomorrow and then InshaAllah I will relax until after half term!!</span></i></span>Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-56286059760084627782011-10-16T23:12:00.002+01:002011-10-17T13:43:24.487+01:00Domestic Violence AwarenessSalam Alaikum<br />
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I've decided to join <a href="http://thenewscheherazades.wordpress.com/domestic-violence-say-stop/">Harmony</a> in spreading spread awareness of domestic violence through our communities. This happens in every community, regardless your background or beliefs.<br />
I'm not going to write a lot on this issue, but will ask you to look at her site InshaAllah<br />
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Aswell as read this story, only one of many<br />
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<a href="http://nour-dv.org.uk/2011/09/26/holding-on-survivor-story-part-1/">Holding on</a><br />
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Also there is a charity for domestic violence, which is working to break barriers and bring awareness to the minority groups, especially muslims.<br />
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<br />Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-45043071910395552262011-10-16T21:29:00.002+01:002011-10-16T21:29:25.466+01:00national bug busting week!Salam Alaikum<br />
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If there is anything i hate more about parenting, it's the constant nit-picking! Even though I comb their hair on a regular basis, I keep finding more and more!! I usually do the combing on fridays, if i find any I'll put vinegar and olive oil in their hair, leave it in over night and then comb again on saturdays.. I do this on fridays, as the hair becomes quite greasy and needs a couple of washes to get rid of the oil.. You can use washing up liquid to get it out, but I prefer not to do that.<br />
This week however it didn't happen, as my son had the worst tantrums ever, he was screaming and crying uncontrollably until bedtime, so by then I was absolutely shattered and decided to leave it to the next day.. Yesterday I decided to spend the day at the park, so when we came back they had their dinner, their baths and then off to bed...<br />
So this morning i rolled my sleeves up and went to war on the bugs.. SubhanAllah I had never seen so many headlice before! even my son had them! the one who was worst was my 2nd one, there were soooo many of them argh!! So I spent 4 hours on combing hair this morning, there were lots of tears and screams involved aswell, which made me think... There should really be a bug busting week all over the country! where all parents comb their kids hair, every day for a whole week (which is the life cycle of head lice) and then following up by once a week! I'm sure we would see much less of these little buggers!<br />
When my oldest daughter was in year 1, the school did a bug busting week, the children had to tick off boxes for every day the parents had combed their hair, and if they had done all 7 days, then they were able to enter a drawing competition and win a price.. I think this is a great idea and should actually become a national week!<br />
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Well I can honestly say this has been one heck of a week at my end.. Kids had a non-pupil day on monday, which meant WWIII started!<br />
So Tuesday morning I was actually relieved that all 3 kids we're going to school for a few hours, just so I could reload my battery! As we approached the entrance, my son's teacher comes up to me and says "I've spoken to the SENCO and she has said Ayoub was only going to come in on a part time basis" I was like what?? that wasn't what I had agreed upon when I saw her last time.. I agreed to every other day part time.. Tuesdays and Thursdays.. So said to her that the SENCO must have misunderstood and I left it at that. When Ayoub came home, he was actually happier than he has been over the last 1 1/2 month, so obviously he's coming to terms with going to this school... or so I thought!<br />
Wednesday morning when we came to the school, the SENCO was there and she came up to me and says "he WILL come in on a part time basis!" I was like huh?? I then explained to her that she must have misunderstood what was said and asked her why this change now? "He's not coping at all, he WILL only come in on a part time basis!" I was speechless and all I could say was "Ooook!" and walked off.. I was furious!! But I know if I would have said anything there and then I would have gone absolutely mental! I went home and was just sittiung on the sofa, staring at the wall, whilst I just got more and more angry! So pulled myself together and thought "right, they want a war, they sure as heck are gonna get one!"<br />
I got the little one dressed and headed over to the nursery, where Ayoub was before going to school. I've known them for 4 years by now and they've been very supportive and helpful during these years MashaAllah. I got hold of both the head of the nursery and the PSA (Parent Support Advisor). I told them the whole story and they were gobsmacked. And as I had hoped they were willing to help me out, even though I don't have any kids at their school at the moment. They were actually amazing, MashaAllah.. I've arranged a meeting with the headteacher tomorrow morning and the PSA will be there to support me. If it goes well, then we'll leave it at that, if not then we'll set up a CAF (common assessment framework) which they will be forced to attend. They've also offered to give me one of the nursery staff to come over to Ayoub's school to work as a one 2 one, until he's settled in MashaAllah.. Also they've offered him a place in the nursery until January, where they can do an easy transition over to reception at their school. So by the summer he'll be fully attending reception there. This has it's great benefits as he knows most of the kids there already, because he was at nursery with them. So that's always an option.<br />
Oh and another issue has come up aswell... My son said yesterday that a teacher had slapped him, so I raised my concerns with the head teacher. Not sure if my son was telling the truth or not, but at least it had to be addressed (just in case he'll say it again, then they can't say why haven't u told us before?).. He went up the wall and totally blew it out of proportion! I said to him, it would be good if he could ask the teacher what had happened in the class the previous day, but nooooo... He went on about calling the local authorities and so on! SubhanAllah! Anyway I will bring this up on the meeting tomorrow InshaAllah<br />
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A mother I speak to on a regular basis who has an autistic son, told me that her son had been permanently excluded from the school today, SubhanAllah! Appearantly he had attacked the one 2 one (still not clear exactly what had happened).. I find this very upsetting as they've been just as discriminating towards him as my son, just for a much longer period.. I asked my eldest daugther about this boy today, about what had happened as they're in the same class.. she said he had been absolutely fine all day, but appearantly had gotten a red card, which only the teachers knew about (her words).. This makes me think that it's either a set -up or planned.. I know I sound crazy, but honestly the story about this boy is very sad, the school has tried to get rid of him since last year. What I don't understand is how the heck can they get away with it?? and how can they treat an autistic child like this?? Oh the ignorance!! Seems like this school is only good enough if you have normal kids, if you have a SEN child, then out you go! SubhanAllah how can they sleep at night!<br />
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It has been an horrible day today.. My 2 year old has hit the terrible 2's.. She has had such full on tantrums all day, it has been unbearable SubhanAllah.. Add that to a 4 year old, who hates school, which took every possible chance to make me feel it aswell! Uff! Uff! Uff! is all I can say Khair InshaAllah<br />
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BUT it's not all negative today. I took my son to the GP to get a referral to a paedriatrician. I was so nervous, as I had been brushed off by my old GP and health visitor. But this woman was just lovely and easy going and just by me telling her a little bit about him, she was happy to make the referral! Alhamdulillah! and because I had obtained a letter from the school regarding their observations, she said i could expect an appointment in the post within 2 weeks! Oh I can't even tell you how relieved I am, that someone FINALLY listen to me, is taking me seriously! And just the fact that doors will start opening now and he'll recieve the support he desperately needs! InshaAllah!<br />
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Oh I'm soooo tempted to relocate! Living in this navy city, is somewhat depressing to say the least. But there's always the question where to??<br />
I've looked into Birmingham and although I've had my heart set on that city for years, I've realised it's probably not my kind of city... Yes the cost of living is alot cheaper than most of the country, but the quality is also thereafter and to be honest (no offence people) but the areas where muslims are in majority, are filty, rubbish all over the place etc... Not the place you want to raise small children or teens for that matter..<br />
Then there's Leicester, which seems to be a place that many have recommended, I've never been there, so can't say much about it. From what I've seen online, it's alright, but still need do to some more research to see what's available..<br />
and then there's London.. The place got everything you need... But then you also have to pay the price for it.. Although it is tempting..<br />
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We took the advantage of the gorgeous weather we had yesterday and went up on the moors. Usually we all have a blast and the kids absolutely love exploring the rivers and the woodland there MashaAllah.<br />
As we arrived we noticed an elderly couple sitting not too far from the spot we had chosen.. They seemed rather odd, lol they had set up a toilet, picnic table and God knows what!<br />
Anyway as we sat down and took our food out, the rest of that family arrived! O...M...G!!! I've never seen anything like it! They were loud and rude! they had a filty dog with them and on purpose let the dog wander over us, I was shocked! Seriously there was absolutely no respect and no intention of removing the dog. I then asked them to move their filty dog as we we're having food and all out and the reply i got was "we have been here all day!" Ehm hello??? since when has public spaces become private property?? LOL they obviously got even more annoyed that we spoke up, so they jumped in the river were the kids were and started to throw rocks around to splash water everywhere... I swear, if it hadn't been for the sister I was with, I would have absolutely kicked off! Because of these swillbillies our kids couldn't even get in the river! I swear I have never seen adults or kids for that matter, behaving in such a way, SubhanAllah, I've seen those kind of people on TV, but never IRL...<br />
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Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-41969849542779829832011-09-29T10:35:00.004+01:002011-09-29T10:36:25.793+01:00my poor little manSalam Alaikum<br />
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As I've mentioned previously, there are concerns about my son being autistic. He has had such a hard time at school, which is so upsetting. He's not settling in at all and unfortunately i don't think the teachers are making enough effort with him either. Knowing my son, with a little care and encouragement, he can adapt, however it seems to me, that the teachers have already given up and are basically leaving him to do what he does.<br />
It has gone from bad to worse to be honest. At first he was being really upset and would burst out crying as soon as he saw me when i picked him up. Then it turned into violence towards his sisters, especially the youngest one, then to having accidents, doing both number 1 and 2 in his trousers and now he's on a hunger strike! SubhanAllah he's refusing to eat, he won't touch his lunch at school, which obviously makes things alot worse as he's starving and tired when he's finished at school, aswell as kicking off for about an hour before home time..<br />
I've spoken to the teacher to see if they can speed up the process so we can get him diagnosed and SubhanAllah they've not sent of the referral yet! she approached me on Ayoub's 3rd day at school that it would be done and we're now in week 4! I'm really upset to be honest, it's taking way too long and she said after the referral has been sent off, then it'll take several weeks to get an appointment! Uff it's hard work! I'm trying to get hold of his speech therapist, to check up on his progress there and then try to get hold of our GP to see if they might be able to speed up the process.. My little man needs help and support and the only way he can get that, is if he gets diagnosed, so InshaAllah it'll go a bit quicker! I don't know how much more I can take, if things don't improve..<br />
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After dropping my kids of at school, I had to do some errands in town. On my way back, I went to Tesco to buy some stuff for dinner, aswell as a smoothie for the little one, who was sitting so quietly in her pushchair.<br />
As we walk home, we came to a traffic light and the cars were stopping for red light.. I noticed that all the drivers and passengers were staring at me! not only staring but turning their heads aswell. Gosh i felt sooo uncomfortable and was wondering if there was something stuck at the end of my nose... After passing all those cars, i stopped just to make sure little princess hadn't poured the smoothie all over her and what do i see??? she's putting her middle finger into the smoothie, then in her mouth and pulling it out in the direction of the cars!! LOL! so that's what they were so grumpy about, a little 2 year old giving them the finger!Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-32335291003092870072011-09-27T20:00:00.001+01:002011-09-27T20:00:36.183+01:00Got an award :D<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><i>The Liebster Blog Award is given to bloggers who have less than 200 followers.</i></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;"><i>only have those followers who are actively blogging lol, so there you go, enjoy :D</i></span></div>
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<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: inherit;">right I've decided to join the lovely Foz on her Friday Wisdom challenge, so here we go:</span></b></div>
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Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-72555464520393349052011-09-21T10:56:00.001+01:002011-09-22T22:12:34.448+01:00Bullying in SchoolsSalam Alaikum<br />
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If there is anything a parent fears the most, it's the bullying at school and what damage it can do to your child.<br />
When my eldest daugther started in reception, she got bullied to the extend that she completely broke down one evening (I had no clue until that very moment). I got in contact with the teachers and headteacher but not much happened than warnings given to the kids involved. After several attempts to get something done, but without results, i decided to change the school and Alhamdulillah since then everything has been going really well and i've now got 3 kids in that school<br />
Or so I thought! A few days ago, she came home and told me that some of her classmates had said she had a funny looking face, that it was different.. When I asked her who had said so and why, she refused to answer and kept saying she couldn't remember.. And ever since, she has been quite fragile, she's over sensitive and has such a temper, not like her at all.. as soon as she comes home she's like a tornado SubhanAllah<br />
Then this morning we arrived early at the school.. She went to the other side of the school, so she could put her packed lunch in the lunch hall and was gonna come back straight away... I was standing at the front of the school with the other 3 and some other parents and thought she was taking alot longer than usual, i didn't put much into it, as she's such a chatterbox and most likely had bumped into one of her friends... Then suddenly i see her coming running towards me with tears in her eyes and the headteacher was following her. She grabbed me and completely broke down, whilst the headteacher told me she had been subjected to some verbal abuse, he had taken care of it and the boy was banned from the playground.. He didn't let her speak at all and afterwards she didn't say much, other than the boy was chasing her... I didn't want to completely ruin her day, so got hold of her friend and got them chatting, aswell as her teacher said she'd have a look out for her..<br />
It completely broke my heart to see her in that state and it has left me wondering what else is going on at school? can it be the fact that she's getting bullied again, hence taking her frustrations out on us, the rest of the family??<br />
I'm gonna get her dad to take the other siblings somewhere, so I can have a proper one to one with her and get to the bottom of this.. She's so sensitive as it is and it has become appearant that she doesn't like her skin colour at all :( Their dad is an Arab, whilst I'm European, so the kids are all mixed race, however my eldest is the only one who has darker skin and hair, all the others are blondes.. She has made a few remarks such as "i want to look more like you and my siblings mummy" or "why do I have to look different than you?" It's heartbreaking, but regardless how much you explain it and tell her how beautiful she is, she keeps looking down in herself..<br />
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<br />Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086740632031530554.post-3159516121027466302011-09-21T05:08:00.000+01:002011-09-21T05:08:11.900+01:00Save the ChildrenWe live in a very twisted world these days. The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.. People's attitude towards other has also changed alot, the rich look at the poor as beggars, whilst the poor look at the rich as greedy.. But who are we to judge? We see people dying in East Africa and what do we do? just turn the blind eye? or do we try to make a change?<br />
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Since the drought began in East Africa, the stories of mothers having no choice, but to leave their children to die, I can't even imagine what does to their heart and soul! having to make that choice or choosing between which child should survive? Absolutely heartbreaking</div>
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There is something we all can do though, please sign <a href="http://e-activist.com/ea-campaign/clientcampaign.do?ea.client.id=7&ea.campaign.id=11203&ea.param.extras=tracking:website">this petition</a></div>
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1. Make sure you sign the petition.</div>
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2. Join in with <a href="http://helloitsgemma.wordpress.com/" style="text-decoration: none;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">@helloitsgemma</span></a> and <a href="http://mdplife.blogspot.com/2011/09/lets-make-chris-proud-will-you-join-us.html?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+mummyfromtheheart+%28Mummy+From+The+Heart...%29" style="text-decoration: none;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">@michelletwinmums</span></a> 100 blogs 100 words challenge. (write 100 words about a health worker, be it a doctor, nurse, midwife or therapist who touched your life.)</div>
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First of all it was my community midwife, although we had our differences, she was so helpful and supportive, both with regards to the pregnancy, but also went the extra mile to support us with other issues. She also took time out to come and see us at the hospital, to see the baby and make sure we were ok. She has been there through all my 4 pregnancies and i couldn't ask for a better midwife.</div>
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He then went back to his restaurant and called me to tell me that he actually had forgotten our son at the school, he had been on his way out of the gate, when our son's teacher came up to him and asked if he hadn't forgotten something! LOL! Oh dear! At first he was confused and had asked her my son?? and then he saw Ayoub coming running! hahaha he had forgotten that his son was now in full time!<br />
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That's men for ya! lol!Aishahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02059358615241053036noreply@blogger.com2