This is what we hear over and over again. But what is actually considered being intergrated? I've been in this country for 7 years now, i do see myself as intergrated, i've learned the language, i know what the English culture, values and history is, my kids are all fluent in English, in fact so much so that they've turned their backs on the other languages we have at home. My kids' friends are predominately non-muslim kids, so we're not isolating ourself from the society, as many seem to claim..
So i'm just wondering how far do I, as a foreigner in the UK, have to go? I do think i've done my bits in terms of intergrating.. But for some odd reasons, people seem to think, that wearing a headscarf and loose fitted clothes, draws the line.. HOW??? why is it that we can't dress modestly in this country? why is it that women HAVE TO show their flesh? Why should we make ourselves look attractive in others eyes?? Seriously, is it any of your business to know what bodyshape I have? What colour my hair is? what my dress style is under my garments? Is it so politically wrong to save ourselves for our husbands eyes only? Alhamdulillah, as muslim women we DON'T NEED or WANT other men to look at us except our own husbands! We've made our commitment to the one man in our life, so why even try to tempt others along? and creating fitnah/temptation and jelousy? Does everything have to be about sexuality these days? and what is the need for women walking around like sex symbols? like a piece of meat, just waiting to be attacked by a lion (willingly or unwillingly)?
NO THANKS! I'm happy the way I am at the moment, i'm not taking my clothes off, just to satisfy the British public, so if this classifies me as not being intergrating, so be it! i've learned what i need to learn about this country, i'm a foreigner, happy to be so and yes i still hold on to my own language, culture and values, those are a part of me, which i'll never throw away, Alhamdulillah!