Friday Wisdom!

Salam Alaikum

When calling towards Allaah, just call with knowledge, leave the guidance in His hands. The Prophet sat out to guide the People of Taif even though they didn't accept, a great nation of Jinn were guided instead. Remember never give up on Da'wah.

MORAL: You might call a group of people for years just to find out people who you didn't even think of listened to you and observed you all this time and because of that they accepted Islaam. Do not be disheartened if you don't see fruits of your labour with regards to da'wah. Success is not about numbers it is about sincerity. 

Abu Thabiit


my poor little man

Salam Alaikum

As I've mentioned previously, there are concerns about my son being autistic. He has had such a hard time at school, which is so upsetting. He's not settling in at all and unfortunately i don't think the teachers are making enough effort with him either. Knowing my son, with a little care and encouragement, he can adapt, however it seems to me, that the teachers have already given up and are basically leaving him to do what he does.
It has gone from bad to worse to be honest. At first he was being really upset and would burst out crying as soon as he saw me when i picked him up. Then it turned into violence towards his sisters, especially the youngest one, then to having accidents, doing both number 1 and 2 in his trousers and now he's on a hunger strike! SubhanAllah he's refusing to eat, he won't touch his lunch at school, which obviously makes things alot worse as he's starving and tired when he's finished at school, aswell as kicking off for about an hour before home time..
I've spoken to the teacher to see if they can speed up the process so we can get him diagnosed and SubhanAllah they've not sent of the referral yet! she approached me on Ayoub's 3rd day at school that it would be done and we're now in week 4! I'm really upset to be honest, it's taking way too long and she said after the referral has been sent off, then it'll take several weeks to get an appointment! Uff it's hard work! I'm trying to get hold of his speech therapist, to check up on his progress there and then try to get hold of our GP to see if they might be able to speed up the process.. My little man needs help and support and the only way he can get that, is if he gets diagnosed, so InshaAllah it'll go a bit quicker! I don't know how much more I can take, if things don't improve..

Something stuck at the end of my nose??

Salam Alaikum

After dropping my kids of at school, I had to do some errands in town. On my way back, I went to Tesco to buy some stuff for dinner, aswell as a smoothie for the little one, who was sitting so quietly in her pushchair.
As we walk home, we came to a traffic light and the cars were stopping for red light.. I noticed that all the drivers and passengers were staring at me! not only staring but turning their heads aswell. Gosh i felt sooo uncomfortable and was wondering if there was something stuck at the end of my nose... After passing all those cars, i stopped just to make sure little princess hadn't poured the smoothie all over her and what do i see??? she's putting her middle finger into the smoothie, then in her mouth and pulling it out in the direction of the cars!! LOL! so that's what they were so grumpy about, a little 2 year old giving them the finger!

Got an award :D

Salam Alaikum!!

Woohoo!! I got a award, MashaAllah, lol had not expected that at all. Thank you so much Muslim Mummy 

The Liebster Blog Award is given to bloggers who have less than 200 followers.

The rules are simple:
  1. Show your thanks to the blogger who gave you the award by linking back to them.
  2. Reveal your top 5 picks for the award and let them know by leaving a comment on their blog.
  3. Post the award on your blog.
  4. Bask in the love from the most supportive people on the blogsphere - other bloggers.
  5. And, best of all - have fun and spread the karma.
Now to re-award it. I have tried to pick blogs I have not given awards to before or are very new. So I award the following blogs: 

only have those followers who are actively blogging lol, so there you go, enjoy :D

Friday Wisdom!

Salam Alaikum!

right I've decided to join the lovely Foz on her Friday Wisdom challenge, so here we go:

Maalik ibn Deenar said: ‘Indeed The Quran is the life of the heart, just as the rain is to the earth...’ Kitaabu Zuhd of Imam Ahmad: 1880 


Bullying in Schools

Salam Alaikum

If there is anything a parent fears the most, it's the bullying at school and what damage it can do to your child.
When my eldest daugther started in reception, she got bullied to the extend that she completely broke down one evening (I had no clue until that very moment). I got in contact with the teachers and headteacher but not much happened than warnings given to the kids involved. After several attempts to get something done, but without results, i decided to change the school and Alhamdulillah since then everything has been going really well and i've now got 3 kids in that school
Or so I thought! A few days ago, she came home and told me that some of her classmates had said she had a funny looking face, that it was different.. When I asked her who had said so and why, she refused to answer and kept saying she couldn't remember.. And ever since, she has been quite fragile, she's over sensitive and has such a temper, not like her at all.. as soon as she comes home she's like a tornado SubhanAllah
Then this morning we arrived early at the school.. She went to the other side of the school, so she could put her packed lunch in the lunch hall and was gonna come back straight away... I was standing at the front of the school with the other 3 and some other parents and thought she was taking alot longer than usual, i didn't put much into it, as she's such a chatterbox and most likely had bumped into one of her friends... Then suddenly i see her coming running towards me with tears in her eyes and the headteacher was following her. She grabbed me and completely broke down, whilst the headteacher told me she had been subjected to some verbal abuse, he had taken care of it and the boy was banned from the playground.. He didn't let her speak at all and afterwards she didn't say much, other than the boy was chasing her... I didn't want to completely ruin her day, so got hold of her friend and got them chatting, aswell as her teacher said she'd have a look out for her..
It completely broke my heart to see her in that state and it has left me wondering what else is going on at school? can it be the fact that she's getting bullied again, hence taking her frustrations out on us, the rest of the family??
I'm gonna get her dad to take the other siblings somewhere, so I can have a proper one to one with her and get to the bottom of this.. She's so sensitive as it is and it has become appearant that she doesn't like her skin  colour at all :( Their dad is an Arab, whilst I'm European, so the kids are all mixed race, however my eldest is the only one who has darker skin and hair, all the others are blondes.. She has made a few remarks such as "i want to look more like you and my siblings mummy" or "why do I have to look different than you?" It's heartbreaking, but regardless how much you explain it and tell her how beautiful she is, she keeps looking down in herself..

Save the Children

We live in a very twisted world these days. The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.. People's attitude towards other has also changed alot, the rich look at the poor as beggars, whilst the poor look at the rich as greedy.. But who are we to judge? We see people dying in East Africa and what do we do? just turn the blind eye? or do we try to make a change?
Since the drought began in East Africa, the stories of mothers having no choice, but to leave their children to die, I can't even imagine what does to their heart and soul! having to make that choice or choosing between which child should survive?  Absolutely heartbreaking

There is something we all can do though, please sign this petition

There are a few other things you can do to help. Your voice DOES make a difference. This WILL help save lives:

1. Make sure you sign the petition.
2. Join in with @helloitsgemma and @michelletwinmums 100 blogs 100 words challenge. (write 100 words about a health worker, be it a doctor, nurse, midwife or therapist who touched your life.)
3. Pass it on. – Link to other bloggers and get them to spread the word and sign the petition!
4. Make some noise! Tweet, post on Facebook, tell your friends and family. Basically lets give these people a voice.

So here's my 100 word challenge:

I don't think midwives get enough praise for their work. I've had some fantastic midwives over the years.
 First of all it was my community midwife, although we had our differences, she was so helpful and supportive, both with regards to the pregnancy, but also went the extra mile to support us with other issues. She also took time out to come and see us at the hospital, to see the baby and make sure we were ok. She has been there through all my 4 pregnancies and i couldn't ask for a better midwife.
And the midwives who were there during my labor and delivery, with my 2nd and 4th, were amazing too and if I ever was to have another child, then i would hope to get one of them

oh dear!

Yesterday was Ayoub's 2nd full day at school and due to me being busy at home, i called the kids' dad to pick them up. They were a bit later than usual, so asked their dad why they were late, he said it was because Ayoub had wanted ice cream (odd, he never asks for ice cream)..
He then went back to his restaurant and called me to tell me that he actually had forgotten our son at the school, he had been on his way out of the gate, when our son's teacher came up to him and asked if he hadn't forgotten something! LOL! Oh dear! At first he was confused and had asked her my son?? and then he saw Ayoub coming running! hahaha he had forgotten that his son was now in full time!

That's men for ya! lol!

Muslimahs United!

Salam Alaikum

Just want to share this site with you all. Muslimahs United is a sisters only forum, where sisters can come and learn just about everything, both islamically and in general. There is a secure verification procedure to prevent men getting access to the site and in the 4 years it's been up running, we've never had any issues, Alhamdulillah

The idea of having a sisters only forum is not new, there are plenty of them out there, but as many of us know, men have always tried to gain access and have been able to do so aswell.. So we thought we'd take the security level to a much higher level and decided to do a verification process, where we get in contact with those who want membership, over the phone or using messenger with mic and or cam.. We also allow access to those who have been referred by other members if they knew each other on a personal basis.. We also do facebook verification, but if we're not convinced that person is a female we would request to contact us in other ways.
I know this verification process might be a bit too much for some of you, but we've done it for the sake of our own security online. The sisters who have gone through the verification process have all been pleased with it as they feel they can be more open and basically let their hair down :)

We have sisters from all over the world and all walks of life MashaAllah and we've manage to bond in such a way, which isn't often apparent on other sisters forum, we are there for each other and support each other in every way possible MashaAllah, it's what sisterhood is all about!

So if you want to become a part of this wonderful forum, just click on the picture below and it should take you to our site InshaAllah! Looking forward to welcome you all (sisters that is lol)

a few funny bits

Salam Alaikum

MashaAllah kids can do and say the most funny and do the most unexpected things, which makes our job as a mum really worth while, love those moments! And having 4 kids is just bring that extra to the table lol, so thought I should share some of it with you all 

Maria at age 4:

Maria and i were throwing balls around (i've been teaching her to grab a ball properly). And at one time she threw the ball at me, it was high enough for me to head it, so i did.. then she goes "no, mamma! that's only for babba!" then i threw the ball at her asking her to head it, she goes "no mamma! my head doesn't work!"

Maria at age 2:

Maria was eating a cheese sandwich.. Then suddently she put it down and said it was too hot for her to eat (it was a cold sandwich).
Then i said to her:" i think u're lying"
Maria: "i'm not a lion! i'm a ladybird!!"

Maria at age 4:

 i woke up dh for work and ofcourse the whole army came along.. When Maria enters the room, she starts reciting Al-Fatiha (with a little bit of help) and dh's face lit up and had a big smile, whilst saying MashaAllah, MashaAllah several times. Maria got really proud of herself and said: "Babba can u teach me more Allahu Akbar (Salah)?"
and dh was ofcourse more than willing to learn her more, So they started to say Adhan together.. Maria only knows Adhan where u sing it, as she hears it on the pc all the time.. for every sentence maria says, dh goes "MashaAllah, MashaAllah, Allahu Akbar" in a typical arab tone (if i can say it like that)
then when they come to "Hayya 'alal-falaah" maria says "Hayya 'alal-falaaaafel!" Picture 116.gif OMG! u should see dh's face huh.gif dry.gif unsure.gif Picture 118.gif4d5c2a4c03c810862698257360df1be4_th.gif 

Maria at age 5:

One day i went to the Range with the kids.. whilst i was looking and some door curtains, the girls were being very curious and looking at all the vases etc, all which can easily break if they were to touch it.. then suddently i heard a bang.. i was like oh no! then i turn around asking them if they did it, but a lady who was standing next to them said it wasn't them, but a lady at the other end of the aisle.. at the same time a member of staff came running over.. then maria goes: "it wasn't me, it was her!" but the old lady vanished behind the aisle, then maria ran over there, then she shouted to the member of staff "it wasn't me!! it was HER! it was THAT old lady!!"

Maria at age 6:

one evening, just before bedtime, i was laying on the sofa, whilst the kids were playing.. then i noticed maria went on the pc (which was in the kitchen).. then i was like Hmmmm.gif why not play a joke on her? so i grabbed my mobile and call the landline and ofcourse as usual she answered it.. So i changed my voice to a deep scruffy voice:

me: "hallooooo"
maria: "hello"
me: "what are you doing?"
maria: "playing on the computer"
me: "what are you playing?"
maria: "farmville"
me: "did u ask ur mother for permission?"
maria: "no?"
me: "then u better get of the computer"
maria: "who is this?"
me: "farmville!"
maria: "farmville?!?!?!?"

by this point i couldn't say another word, as i was laughing so much, then she comes running to me, as if she'd seen a ghost, shouting "mamma!! mamma!! farmville is on the phone!" when she saw me and then my mobile she was laughing her head of and saying in an annoyed voice "maaammmaaaa!!!! u're really naughty!!!

Dina at age 3:

Dina was vacuum cleaning the floor, whilst i quickly checked something on the PC.. she was sitting with the hose itself and vacuumed cm by cm.. then suddently sheaargh4.gif MAMMA!!! MAMMA!!! when i turned around she had vacuumed one of her lips!! Picture 116.gif what a sight!! Picture 116.gif

Dina at age 3:

Dina was throwing a massive tantrum, so i told her that she had to go to her room, if she hadn't calm down before i counted to 5.. I start to count really slowly and by no 2, she was half way there, by number 3 she was quiet, so i stopped counting, then she looks at me with a face like this grumpy.gif and says 4, 5, 6, 7! count more?!? she was sooo not happy!

Dina at age 5:

Dina just came out of her bedroom: "mamma?? can't you tell maria to be quiet?? i need my beauty sleep??" whilst she was rolling her eyes! LOL!! 

Ayoub at age 3:

Ayoub wanted Jennah to play hide and seek with him..

Ayoub: "Jennah count! then I will hide!"

She gave him her back and counted to 10.. in the meantime Ayoub hid under the dining chair, lol! she turned around and ofcourse could see him straight away... He got totally excited and shouted "Jennah??? can you find me???" she gave him a 2nd glance, shook her head, into the livingroom and sat down to play with some toys!

Ayoub at age 4:

a couple of weeks ago, i woke up with a bounce! my little man was jumping on the bed, lol at first i didn't realise it was him, so got a bit frightened :roflol: then when i looked up and saw him, i asked him, what on earth are you doing?? his reply was, i'm finished bouncing now, so let's go brush my teeth! I thought to myself what is going on in his little head? 1. he always wakes me up with a cuddle not a bounce and 2. brushing teeth has always been a major problem as he would fight me to the end to not get them brushed! anyway i got myself out of bed, tried to wake up when i got a glimse at the pc screen... :roflol: he had been watching big and small on cbeebies and had been copying small! That boy can really come up with the funniest things sometimes MashaAllah 

more to come another time InshaAllah :D

School has started

Salam Alaikum!

Gosh the past 2 weeks have flown by, SubhanAllah. Kids started back at school and with the youngest being half days for the first couple of weeks has been hard work. He didn't seem to settle in, threw tantrums all the way to and back from school. And the afternoons haven't been that great either SubhanAllah..
But on Thursday we seemed to have a break through.. It was the first day without all the morning drama and he ran into his classroom, which was brilliant to see and MashaAllah he was so calm and content when he came back home at lunch time.. Obviously i had hoped for the same on Friday, but that wasn't the case.. When i picked him up at lunch time, he was crying because he wanted to stay for lunch! lol MashaAllah.. So today hasn't been any issues at all when going to school, InshaAllah it'll be alright, he just need some time to settle in properly..
His first speech therapy assessment at school was suppose to happen last week, but because he was only in half a day and the therapist comes to the school in afternoons, then he missed that one.. InshaAllah this Wednesday he'll have his assessment. His teacher has also said she has asked someone from the children's health centre to come and have a look at him, so InshaAllah things are going in the right direction.. All I want for him is to get the right help and the support he needs and obviously get some question answered InshaAllah

This is now my first morning of being almost free, lol.. I've got no idea of what do to with myself, I think it'll take some time to adjust, but InshaAllah a set routine will be in place soon.. I will be doing a course in interior design in the near future InshaAllah and I've also decided to get back in shape! So InshaAllah when the dust has settled I'll get back on track!

I'm back!!

Salam Alaikum!

I'm back after a few CRAZY weeks! Been moving house and with alot of disappointments and being let down over and over, it's finally coming to a close Alhamdulillah! The keys will be handed over tomorrow afternoon and THEN i can focus on getting my new home in order, INshaAllah, because it's in a right state, but at least i'm getting the other property off my hands now, what a relief!
I can't wait to get to do a few bits and pieces around the house to make it all homely and cosy for me and the kids :D

Kids are starting school tomorrow.. I'm kind of nervous to be honest.. my son is starting in reception and there have been some concerns of him being "mildly" autistic, Allahu A'lim. He's seeing a speech and language therapist who will attend his class up until half term, then InshaAllah we'll get a better overview of his situation. They're also talking about getting an occupational therapist in to see him, InshaAllah.. At the moment he's refusing to go to school, he wants to go back to his nursery, SubhanAllah.. He has had loads of tantrums because he's going to school so I'm kind of dreading tomorrow.. However it might all change when we get to the school InshaAllah.. I know he's not good with changes, so I'm terrified to see how he will react to it. He might not show it at school, but we will certainly feel it at home. Ever since the move started he has been having the worst fits ever SubhanAllah, even to the point where i almost broke down in tears as i had no idea what to do.. Anyway all i can do now is to pray he'll be ok and actually will enjoy it InshaAllah

This upcoming week will be quite hectic on my side... need to get loads of stuff sorted, then on wednesday i've got a lunch with a sister and over the weekend a friend is coming down from Birmingham with her 2 kids.. Haven't seen them for 2 years, so i'm really excited MashaAllah

anyway better go, need to get the uniforms ready for tomorrow! now there are 3 sets to pull out MashaAllah, time goes too quickly!